When it comes to disciplining children effectively, we should always have in mind the verse that says Don’t spare the rod and spoil the child (Whoever spares the rod of discipline hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them, Proverbs 13:24).
Children need discipline to thrive in their lives and in the society. They need discipline to help them be responsible, help them make right choices wherever they find themselves and in any situation. Ignoring or directly or indirectly encouraging bad behaviors is sparing the rod.
Train up a child in the way he/she should go, so that when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6.
When disciplining our children we should be careful not to do it the wrong way. How to discipline your kids and how not to. What’s right and what’s not so right?. Every parent will have a different answer to this question. There’s no one right way to raise a child – good behaviors can be encouraged in many ways with different strategies and there are many wrong ways as well. Encourage good behaviors and achievements, encourage a change in bad or unacceptable behaviors. Just as adults need boundaries and disciplines so do children need structure and discipline. How we communicate both spectrum, good and bad behavior, is the key to proper disciplining.
When you discipline your child with words that are instructive and caring instead of words that are destructive, mean or demeaning your child feels respected and he/she is more likely to comply. This is not to say that we should give them a choice or condone a bad behavior, this simply means.. Do not use insultive words, degrading words or words that destroy a person’s self esteem on your kids.
Punishments are always a good measure of changing bad behaviors in kids; grounding, taking away privileges e.g. taking away friends coming over or child visiting friends, taking away TV or game time, taking away treat etc. are good ways of correcting bad behaviors.
Making a bad behavior seem small or not so bad is unacceptable
Train a child in the way he should go; what we teach or expose our children to is what they learn to do, how they learn to behave and the things they learn to say. Let us be mindful of what we teach our children, they are our future.